The readings, particularly Jesus' advice in the gospel, are interesting. Looking back on two of the marriages at which I officiated that have ended, I wish I'd had the foresight to remind the couples that once the ceremony is over you can't look back. You can't continue to hang out with your buddies the way you did before being married, you can't put your girlfriends first. The relationships will change drastically. You cannot live the life you did before committing to marriage. You have said yes to another. You have said yes to a particular way of life. This way of life cannot be part-time. It must be full-time with everything else taking second place. The same is true when parenthood happens. Stay behind the plow, keep going forward.
The same is true for a man or woman entering religious life. Your old life is gone. A few years ago while making manifestation to the provincial he asked if I had ever thought of leaving the Society. I responded that I had, generally once a year, and almost invariably when I was in Philadelphia. I liked living in Philly during med school and loved it during psychiatry residency fifteen years later. Whenever I found myself in Philly after entering I would eventually wander over toward the Parkway with the Art Museum at one end (think Rocky running up the steps) and the Cathedral of Sts. Peter and Paul at the other. And my apartment with a view of the cathedralnearby
.During the three years I lived there I ran along the Parkway four or five days a week, attended concerts at the Academy of Music regularly (hearing violinist Sarah Chang's debut with the Orchestra remains the most memorable concert), explored restaurants, bookstores, and wandered. Unfortunately I had not yet returned to photography as a hobby so there is no record.